The 44-year-old actress opens up in the September issue of Health about work, marriage and motherhood and how she finds the time to balance it all. Gabrielle Union says even with everything seemingly in order, it’s still “impossible” for one woman to have it all.
“A mother, to have it all, has to somehow also provide a check, also be superfreak Kama Sutra down to the ground, be a size double zero, be super present in the PTA but still putting in extra hours at work. It is impossible,” Union says. “There are literally not enough hours. To me, having it all is not having it all and it being OK.”
But when it comes to social media, she’s not the type to brush off the negativity. “I need to know who said it,” she admits about people who send rude comments. “No one who’s ever said anything super negative to me has an amazing life.” Union jokes that if were Jennifer Lopez writing that her “squat form wasn’t right,” it would be okay because, “she would know.”
Union also has ways to block out any feelings of guilt in her life. “I have figured out how to say no,” she explains and says she’s begun to “create comfortable spaces where I have real joy in my work, in my home, in my marriage, with the kids.” She cares for her thre e children—two of whom are stepsons from Wade’s previous marriage—and insists that she is living her best life. Her secret to happiness? She’s following in her grandmother’s footsteps. “If somebody’s like, ‘Shots!’ I’m like, ‘Yes!’ If someone says, ‘Bacon!’ I’m like, ‘Yes!’ She lived. I definitely live.” Not bad advice from a woman who lived to be 110!
The September issue of Health will be on newsstands Aug. 11.
(Full Interview with “Health” is now available online.)